I recently wrote a post about my dad turning 50, and the reflections I had of fatherhood in general. I have been extremely blessed with the father I have, but I know that there are many, too many, that aren’t as blessed.
The lack of a father figure in homes today is, in my opinion, the cause of most of society’s problems. I recently read a book called, To Own A Dragon: Reflection of Growing Up Without A Father by Donald Miller. In the back Don gives the following statistics:
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes—5 times the average.
85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes—20 times the average.
80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes—14 times the average.
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes—9 times the average.
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes—10 times the average.
70% of youth in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes—9 times the average.
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes—20 times the average.
I’m saying all of this for two reasons:
1. We as followers of Christ need to step up and fill this gap. At a minimum, we need to be getting involved with our childrens’ lives. But we also need to reach out to all of those kids who are growing up without that father figure. If that means mentoring, then do it. If that means adoption or foster care, then we should be stepping up. We know what these kids need, and we can give it to them!
2. For all of those that might be reading this that grew up in that situation yourself, you need to know that although you might have had a bad earthly father experience, there is a true and loving father available to you 24/7. Below is a talk Don gave last year at Mars Hill Bible Church about his book.
God Is Fathering Us — Donald Miller (Don begins at 11:50)
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I only have one problem with your post… it makes me want to read a Donald Miller book. The last time I tried i was sorely disappointed, but perhaps this one is worth the look…
I was blessed to grow up with a dad who loved me very much. Despite our often shallow relationship (something we’ve moved past) i knew his love for me ran deep.
My wife, however, grew up without a father so I am able to see what it can do to someone emotionally. It drives me to be a better father to my daughters and to pray that I can reflect the love of our Father to them.
Good post.
This was a different book for Donald Miller. More so a “fly on the wall” view of a complete family unit from his perspective of living with them. It’s a good read for anyone trying to navigate the world of parenthood. It’s like a reality show in book form. You can ride along and see how another family does it. All written in signature Miller style.
I enjoyed the book. Great post Mud. I think that’s why I am passionate about the “All Pro Dad” thing too. It’s just huge that we engage in our kids lives now. Sounds like you both are a testimony to it’s importance as well.
Kudos to all you guys. My guys have been fortunate to have had great men take interest in their lives, from coaches to friends, to people at church. Many have given my guys time, respect, and opportunities—and have shown them how to be men.
Note of encouragement—Matt (my 15 yr old) contributes here, and Tim (my 18 yr old) is now mentoring our 11 yr old neighbor whose father is in jail…you may never know the impact you guys have on others…thank you from all of us single moms!!!